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Devastated

PostPosted: Fri Dec 16, 2016 7:29 pm
by SilverMoonTiger
this morning at 12.45am my husband passed over. Turns out he had a brain tumour. I feel empty, numb, and despite that I am still not sure it has totally sunk in.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Fri Dec 16, 2016 7:55 pm
by Ouroboros
I am so sorry to hear of your Husbands passing, I know he was sick for a long time but you don't expect to hear bad news like this. Please accept my deepest sympathies.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Fri Dec 16, 2016 8:57 pm
by SilverMoonTiger
Thank you. It was totally unexpected. Just struggling to get my head around it all.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Sat Dec 17, 2016 10:44 pm
by Ouroboros
I am sure that is it still hard to comprehend, I don't know how I would handle the loss. I hope you have lots of friends and family around you.
Bless you sweetheart.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Sat Dec 17, 2016 11:28 pm
by Elia
Im so sorry to hear this, I'm at a loss for words. He has been through a lot, bless your heart Honey, I just feel so sad for you.
My attempt at trying to make you feel better would be an epic fail, just know we are here and love you very much, blessings to all the family as well.
You will be in my prayers for quite a while.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Sun Dec 18, 2016 9:04 pm
by SilverMoonTiger
I don't even really know how I feel. It's really strange. I think a whole section of my brain has just closed off. I spent so long looking after him, and now.....well nothing. I don't think this is a normal response.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Sun Dec 18, 2016 11:26 pm
by Ouroboros
I can only guess that you feel like you have lost your purpose and that there is something that you should be doing. Who knows what a normal response is? Just be kind to yourself and let other people worry about you for a change. Sending big hugs to you.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Mon Dec 19, 2016 1:32 am
by Elia
What's normal???? Who can say, we all process things differently.
You just lost your life partner, friend, Husband, that's not an easy thing for anyone.
You will be lost for a while, let yourself grieve, and let others around you help, you'll find your footing in good time.
I'm thinking of you and sending prayers.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Fri Dec 23, 2016 8:20 pm
by Elia
Honey, how are you doing???

I'm lighting candles and sending prayers and hugs, I hope you can find a way to get through this.

Much Love

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Sat Dec 24, 2016 9:01 pm
by SilverMoonTiger
Thank you. I feel really lost. I will get there, I know I will. My brain is scrambled. Funeral is not until January 10th. Don't think that helps.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Sun Dec 25, 2016 1:47 am
by Elia
Oh my, no it wouldn't, you need closure.
Just so you know I'm thinking of you, sending as much love as I can muster.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Mon Dec 26, 2016 10:00 pm
by Ouroboros
Yes, we are keeping you close in our hearts. Sending cyber hugs!

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Mon Jan 09, 2017 7:02 pm
by Elia
Hi Sweetheart,
Ill be thinking of you tomorrow, and will keep a candle lit all day. I hope you're feeling better.
This has broken my heart

Much Love XXXOOO *big bear hugs*

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Tue Jan 10, 2017 6:03 pm
by Elia
I have a candle lit Hun. ill be praying for you today.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Wed Mar 22, 2017 4:40 pm
by SilverMoonTiger
I thank you all. I seem to be climbing out of the pit of despair now. Sorry I've been away so long, but it has been so difficult.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Wed Mar 22, 2017 7:20 pm
by Ouroboros
I can certainly understand how difficult it has been for you. Sending hugs and blessings to you.

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Fri Mar 24, 2017 2:41 am
by Elia
It takes time, and even then, time is your enemy. I'm still praying for you, asking for blessings everyday, I have not gotten through a day without you coming to my mind. I have lost a lot of close relatives, but not a Husband of so many years. I know this is not easy, but I also believe you're strong and you will manage your pain.
Blessings

Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Sun Apr 02, 2017 5:49 am
by patrah
Honestly with love and loved ones, it not only takes a long time.....
it takes a life time....
Eventually the deep wrenching pain takes a back seat to having to live....
Without that one who we love....
It is so difficult to love someone who is no longer tangible, but whose love and life is still very real,in our hearts....
Married people sometimes jokingly say to people like me who have never married....
"Oh be glad you're not married....
I have got to say, in the instance of loving another so immensely, and having to live without them, this would be the reason I wonder....
No joke, this would have to be the ultimate heartbreak.....
However, in my experience, the amount of care in loving another probably matches the pain of the loss....
I mean to love deeply, must be a wonderful wonderful experience, not to even be tarnished by the passing.....
B
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Re: Devastated

PostPosted: Sun Apr 02, 2017 11:26 pm
by Elia
patrah that was sweet :D